I don’t understand one thing: When a person eats at someone else’s place (be it dinner or lunch), they tend to think guests have a major appetite for food. I mean I totally understand the whole etiquette of, you know, persuading guests to have some more food. What I don’t understand is the comments I get to hear. For instance, after I finished my lunch at this family’s place, the aunty there said, “Oh are you done already? How come?! Are you dieting??!” and I sheepishly answered, “Oh no, aunty, I’ve had enough food for one day.” But in reality, I’m thinking I am done because I’m full. Where on earth does the ‘dieting’ thing come from?
Its not just this once that it has happened to me. Happens all the time. I mean, okay I understand that I’m not exactly what’s called ‘slim’ but I guess when girls don’t eat more, the only thing people think is that maybe she’s figure-conscious. As if that’s the only thing girls think about. I guess that’s the way society is. Girls have to be picture perfect.
From what my friend told me about her experiences with this whole deal with a guy and his family coming to ‘see’ a potential bride and what not, it really is annoying. When a guy is looking for a girl to get married, the first thing you hear ‘Slim, beautiful, fair, so-n-so tall’ as if they’re looking for some product on sale. And THE MOST annoying thing of it all, the guy never seems to think how he looks. I mean he’s got standards that, most of the time, he himself doesn’t meet.
I wonder how things will be with me. I really do and sometimes it makes me anxious and scared. There are so many what-ifs, especially when I know I can talk…a lot. I hear things are changing now. It’s not as it was before. I hope so.
There’s hope. There always is.
Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~Fanny Brice